Time...

Why does time seem to pass so quickly? We currently have D2 living with us. She is 13. She is not a morning person. She is caught between being a child dependent on her Mom and a teen who wants her independence. Sometimes when those two worlds collide, I think I am going to loose it. TBW is always there reminding me that "this too shall pass".

It is fun to see life through her eyes and realize that you don't have the pressure of actually living through the teen-angst first hand anymore. The wonder of the first kiss (and more)... The thrill of just talking to someone you like, finding out they like you. Getting asked to dance... Then the heartache, the breakup, getting dumped.

I was driving the girls home the other night and they were sitting in the back seat and talking about things. I love to listen. Just listen. For middle schoolers (in the bubble at least) "going out" is equivalent to "boyfriend/girlfriend". That includes dating, (although no one is really allowed to do that yet) as well as talking on the phone and the occassional dance. This conversation was centered around the dance they had just left where a breakup ensued. Now the girl and this guy barely knew each other - but she was devastated none the less. Those are the moments that I don't miss. But I realized that the support and kindness of a good friend can get anyone through anything.

D2 is my most compassionate daughter. She sometimes seems to have a wisdom and caring well beyond her 13 years. We were eating dinner the other night and she said out of the blue... "I don't like the way D1 is treating you". To which I said, "I don't either, but I am at a loss at what to do." She didn't skip a beat, and said, "Sometimes you will have to let go, to get her back." Now I have talked at length to TBW about what to do about D1 and her feelings for TBW and I. We had come to the same conclusion. It was just reaffirming to get the unsolicited opinion of D2. As I was writing this, I got a call that my cousin's husband, who was 52, died the other day. Sometimes, I feel like life is too short to let things go - even if it is the best thing. What if we don't have enough time? But I guess, all we can do, is the best we can while we are here... and hopefully we will have enough time to work it all out.